Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to love yourself. Particularly when you’ve been an close eyewitness and active participant to everything yourself has put you through. With every challenge, you tend to doubt yourself, your ability and your power just a little bit more. When we experience heartbreak and setback, the first thing that most of us do is pick ourselves apart then dust ourselves off, apply a bandage to the wound and keep moving. But I’m here to challenge you a little bit more. Here to challenge you to do a little bit more.
Oftentimes we “keep it moving” to keep us from dealing with the sting of the fall, the hurt, the pain. But pain has purpose. Pain IS purposed. The initial response to painful situations, is to immediately get over it. Eventually, you’ll have to take up your bed and walk. But… you can’t fully walk away from something you don’t acknowledge and release. Guess what happens when you try? It follows you. It haunts you. It lingers, it stays, it remains. It shows up again. And again. And again.
The best thing to do is to unpack your bag for a moment while you there, hitch your tent and sit in it for a minute. Why? Because, like I mentioned earlier, pain is purposed. And oftentimes we end up missing the lesson in it (and subsequently repeating it) because we’re too busy trying to get out of it.
The only way you’ll grow from painful situations is to acknowledge how you’ve responded to it. What have you learned about yourself and how did you respond? What are somethings you’d do differently should the situation present itself again? And what would you need to do prevent it from happening again? All of these questions can help you find yourself and ultimately discover your passion.
Honey listen, the best time to love yourself is when you feel no one else does. The best nurturer for you will always be you. Sometimes, bad things just happen. But you don’t have to feel bad and down on yourself because of them. Encourage yourself, inspire yourself, motivate yourself, be a friend to yourself, love yourself. Cheer yourself on!